manipulating who

She’s been seeing an older guy (9years older). He’s been more than enough to satisfy her sexually. It’s been 5 months and he has decided to take a break from seeing her…this is the 4th time. He travels for work and lives hundreds of miles away. Whenever he leaves after being in town for work, he gets it in his head that she tries to control and manipulate him and says she’s jealous that he’s seeing other women and she wants a boyfriend or husband but he’s not it or interested in being either. He’s convinced himself of the most ridiculous things about their NSA situation. She knows he needs his ego boosted daily by whatever he wants to discuss and she does that. All she wanted was his thick white cock. Damn the rest of his nonsense. She’s made it clear that she’s not leaving her present relationship to be with anyone.
About a month ago, during casual conversation he told her that he’d played with another female in another area. She didn’t feel any way about it but he kept poking the bear baiting her into what he called her jealousy. She politely said she needed to make contact to meet someone before she was going on a trip and his entire demeanor changed and he said well I’ll stop texting you so you can get set up with someone local. But wait … that wasn’t enough he hopped back on his soap box about her being jealous of his seeing other women and she was over being nice and passive and simply said “I don’t give a damn who you fuck. I can’t be jealous of you playing with other females you belong to the streets. I like the sex we had but there are so many other options with fewer insecurities.” Click he blocked her for 3 days and she had questions about an article she read and in that profession would clarify things for her. She texted him with the questions he gave answers that incorporated things they had done physically were not considered in the article. She thanked him and was about to leave the chat and the 3dot bubble popped up. Damn she thought not wanting to fight or mess up her positivity she waited and he started to recap their previous visits and how she loved his mouth and cock. He was the best lover she’s ever had but he wasn’t going to stop seeing other females…yaddda yaddda yah.

So they got past that hiccup and got some things clear and he denied being jealous but avoided talking about his reaction to her telling him she was going to make plans to meet someone that she’d known longer she’d known him. Now mind you she is very discreet with meets and it’s not his business who? Where? When? or If? He said he loved her 3 months ago but he’s not in love with her and they don’t have sex he makes love to her. Okay was all she could say. She cares about him but he requires tooooooooo much damn energy with his narcissistic personality.

Why can’t people just enjoy one another without drama?