“Oh, you know, most guys go through this cycle of blow job, penetrative fucking, cum shot... That way you hit all of the most high-intensity parts of the porn. But too much of that would probably be desensitizing to sex in real life,” he speculates, “because that’s not how real sex works.”..
According to PornHub.com’s 2015 year-in-review, we’ve blown through 1,892 petabytes of bandwidth on the site this past year, equivalent to filling the storage on all of the iPhones sold in 2015 with porn. In 2015 we watched 4.4 billion hours of porn on PornHub.com alone. The U.S. was responsible for 41% of the XXX-rated site’s traffic this year, with women representing 23% of the site’s visitors and men 77%.
Free online porn has become so accessible that in October 2015, iconic porno mag Playboy announced its no-more-nudity rebranding in an effort to stay relevant in the modern age of digital debauchery; “The political and sexual climate of 1953, the year Hugh Hefner introduced Playboy to the world, bears almost no resemblance to today,” said Playboy Enterprises CEO Scott Flanders.
In 2015, handheld devices brought in most of PornHub.com’s traffic, with 52.9% of visits coming from phones, 10.8% from tablets and only 36.3% from desktop computers. That means men aren’t just holding their penises while jerking off.
With hand-held devices, everything men need to jack off is readily available in the pockets and flies of their jeans, providing them with a hyper-stimulating cycle in short, high-impact sessions. As PornHub.com reports, the average visit to their site lasts just over nine minutes — far from the 30 minute average it takes most women to orgasm via direct stimulation and hardly enough time to light some candles before or snuggle after — a disconnect from partnered sexual experiences that could be causing more harm than good.
“Technology-assisted opportunistic masturbation can cause stress or have a negative effect on the libido for real-life, partnered sex,” says doctor. “Men aren’t using their imaginations or thinking about real people in their lives like their girlfriends or exes — they’re not tapping into their own erotic database. There’s something that gets lost when you’re masturbating to people like porn performers, who aren’t personally or intimately relevant to you.”
Oxytocin, sometimes known as “the bonding molecule,” is just one of the many neurochemicals that floods the brain during sex and orgasm. It chemically forges emotions, feelings of attachment and even love, but when we whack it to the web it’s kind of like hitting a tennis ball into the woods rather than to a partner. That opportunity for bonding doesn’t have a recipient.
“Orgasm is a reward,” doctor elaborates. “Having an orgasm activates the reward centers in the brain and so the more you can activate that in response to erotic memories or fantasies involving your partner, the more you’re strengthening that sexual connection to that person, which is getting lost in the age of technology. Amongst the clients I see, the low-desire male isn’t the male who isn’t interested in sex, he’s the male who’s masturbating to porn but not having sex with his wife or girlfriend.”
But certainly having easy access to porn, sexual pleasure, and self-love isn’t all bad, right?
“It’s my opinion that the benefits of porn far outweigh the downsides,” says doctor. “I believe there is also a real positive role of porn and that masturbation is super healthy in many ways, including helping people regulate their moods or cope with depression or anxiety. Porn can also help people get in touch with their unique erotic templates, experiment with different tastes and fetishes without the real-live risk, and couples can watch porn together to keep their sex lives lively.”
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That's a tough one. I feel like you've got to have at least one or the other, though, or a mix of both. Hard to cross the ocean in a rowboat, but also hard to cross with an ocean liner if you don't know how to steer, lol.